You’re Not Over This, Are You

8 years ago. One day after Labor Day. 2012.

I’ll never forget the gut-wrenching feeling after that surprise phone call. I was fired from my dream job. Or more accurately: one of my many dream jobs.

I stayed all dressed up (as if looking the role would bring it back?) and called my friend, Monica. I needed to see a dear friend. On my deck. With wine. Girl talk. The real kind. Pronto.

When David returned from biz travels a few days later, he took one look at me,

“You’re not over this, are you.”

Um, no. It happened like yesterday, how could I be. Not even close.

He suggested I get a good night’s sleep and then scheduled a kitchen table ‘meeting’ with me for the next morning. (Sometimes you just need to let someone you trust guide you thru and beyond your stuckness.)

That ‘meeting’ shifted my whole perspective and transformed my soul.

I was going to be all right.

Yet there I was: Fired. From a major dream job after having been invited in, following an international search. I would be Co-CEO of a soon-to-be-global startup.

(Don’t ever be Co-Anything. Own your role… and structure the organization so that everyone else can own theirs, too.)

I left my BOLD business and my Fit Modeling Agency to go do this. It was an opportunity custom-created, made-in-heaven, a custom fit, for me. So yes, it was a very big deal.

And yet, there I was. Fired.

Back to David. “Head to Treehouse. Nature will do you good. Take a few months and go write. You always wanted to write. Go. Write.”

So many times in my life I was sure I no longer needed a cabin. Every time, ours has proven me wrong. I packed a few things, said my Goodbye Awesome Husband goodbyes, and headed to Treehouse. The little lake cabin we built together almost 30 years ago.

When I arrived, I was overcome with emotion – gratitude, exhaustion, amazingly no hate.

The decision someone else made for me was no longer holding me prisoner in my own mind.

I headed out the door, straight onto one of my favorite dirt trails… I walked that dry, dusty road and cried pools of tears until all that was left on my face was the same dry dust I was walking thru.

And then I looked up. I looked deep into the woods. And saw THIS.

Sunshine revealed a most exquisite scene… mighty trees protecting bouquets of delicate peach-colored moss.

I had walked past this same spot every Fall for years… and never noticed.

I exhaled one last massive exhale and finally believed I was ready to let it all go. And in that moment, reinforced for myself that no matter how hard anyone wanted to help me thru it…

Rebounding from any setback was, is, and always will be… up to me.

Thanks for stopping by. I’m glad you’re here.

KEEP BECOMING TOTALLY YOU

And I will, too.

ANN TATARELLI ULRICH

WingWoman For Women – Champion. Friend. Coach. Confidante.

© 1993-2020 Ann T. Ulrich ANNULRICH.COM

Loving Your Life vs Struggle Sells

by Ann Tatarelli Ulrich

The first time I saw this poster, it stopped me in my tracks:

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My first thought?

OH MY GOSH, I LOVE THIS!

My next thought?

WHO EVEN SAYS THAT.

To say your Today is the Yesterday you dreamed about … would be basically admitting to loving your life.

Yep. LOVING. YOUR. LIFE. 

Loving your life does not EVER require that everything is perfect.

LOVING YOUR LIFE – EVEN WHEN IT’S EASIER NOT TO – IS WHAT WE NEED TO HEAR MORE OFTEN – FROM ME AND FROM YOU – LOUD AND STRONG.

I get it. 

Struggle Is REAL.

STRUGGLE SELLS.

That’s LIFE. 

Start paying attention to which syllable you’re putting your own emphasis on. 

Don’t let STRUGGLE SELLS become your next excuse… OF COURSE IT SELLS. 

Realize that once you’ve branded yourself in that…

By choosing to MAKE THE STRUGGLE YOUR STORY…

Don’t be surprised if you wake up one day wondering when exactly you stopped loving your life.

As you begin doubting whether anyone actually DOES love theirs. 

BRAVO WE WHO DO…

Even when – especially when – it’s easier not to. 

BRAVO ALL Willing To Shout THAT from rooftops.

Do YOU Remember The Days You Used To Dream About What You Have Right Now?

LOVE In This Month Of Valentines,

ANN ULRICH

Founder, DO 1 BOLD THING™

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*not sure who to credit for this inspirational meme above – love it!

YOUR BOLD 2018 REFLECTION: CHAMPAGNE – AULD LANG SYNE – ANGST

Hello BOLD Friend,

Ready to shove 2018 right out the door?

Or hanging on to these last few days, wishing they could last, you know, forevvver?

One person’s Champagne celebration, is another’s Auld Lang Syne, is another’s Angst.

That last one. If your end-of-year Angst is due to a precious loss – or a radical disappointment this past year, I hope you feel this virtual hug…

… maybe just sign off here right now… go head outside into some fresh air… or grab your favorite pillow and blanket and gift yourself an immersion in blissful nothingness… or call a friend… or send an encouraging word to someone you know needs it today.

Love how compassion and kind action for another can boomerang right back for you.

Let me know in the comments below what came your way as a result of sending that encouraging word to someone you know needed it… so I/We can help celebrate the beautiful BOLD in YOU.

You already know what you need today.

To believe you deserve it can be the hard part.

And if your celebration is all sparkly glitter and bubbles? Let us know in the comments below, and we’ll be right here virtual toasting you!

Ah, ringing in a new year… I had a few too many bad-blind-variety dates back in the day (Ha! Ugh!) and learned that my favorite way to welcome a new year is to “Immerse In Blissful Nothingness”. Not sure if my husband David enjoys that choice as much as I do, he’s become a good sport about it over all these years.

Funny how my business has evolved to reflect life. (It’s ALL life, right?)

Immersing in Blissful Nothingness is a DO 1 BOLD THING™ strategy that helps me take big BOLD action and baby bold steps toward my dreams and goals.

Sometimes what I need most is to first get QUIET… immersing myself in blissful nothingness… before I boldly hit DO.

Even for a moment.

Even when it’s easier not to.

I hope this inspires what you need to do, or not do, too.

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(This Downloadable/Printable 8×10 poster: My “Thank You for Subscribing!” Gift for YOU)

Here’s toasting everything GOOD you’ve experienced or created or dreamed up or took action on in YOUR 2018…

My wish for you as you welcome 2019:

Stay Inspired. 

Stay BOLD. 

Keep Going!

(And I will, too!)

It feels great to be blogging again…

I’m excited to build this blog readership back up in 2019.

THANK YOU for your subscribing, for your comments below, and for hitting any SHARE BUTTON linked below to share this Blog on your Social Media – or with whoever you think might love a positive jolt of BOLD inspiration along their way, too. (Tag me so I can thank you!)

ANN ULRICH, Wife Mom & Nonna | Motivational Keynote Speaker | Inspirational Movement Igniter – Join our community where I’ll be featuring weekly reposts of YOUR BOLD ACTION in 2019 on Instagram: @do1boldthing | Blogger, Writer, Author | From Founder to Co-Founder To Fired To Owner | Former Plus Runway Model & Founder of the 1st Fit Modeling Agency In America! | Chief BOLD Innovator, Owning It at DO 1 BOLD THING™ | @do1boldthing #do1boldthing

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OWN IT … WITH CONFIDENCE.

CONFIDENCE.

Is Believing In Yourself…

Even In That Moment – Especially In That Moment – When It’s Easier Not To.

DO 1 BOLD THING™ Today:

In That Key Conversation, Tough Situation, or Exciting Presentation…

OWN IT.

With Calm Classy Courageous Contagious CONFIDENCE.

Happy International Women’s Day❗️❤️🌹

– Ann Ulrich, Owning It at Women Who #Do1BOLDThing!

Discreet Confidante As Trusted Advisor For Female Executives | Inspirational Motivational Speaker – Leadership & Life | Join The #Do1BOLDThing Movement!

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NEW! DO 1 BOLD THING™ LIVE STREAMING SHOW

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UPDATE – MARCH 2018:  Aha! My fabulous Live Show may soon become “formerly fabulous”. Just learned Gravy Live has changed their platform, re-launching as a Shopping Gaming Show iPhone app. Umm… you thinking what I’m thinking? Yep, no longer may be a fit. GREAT team at Gravy tho, and it was all SUPER FUN while it lasted! Stay tuned for new posts, what’s NEW at WOMEN WHO DO 1 BOLD THING!

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In My Weekly Show I’ll Bring BOLD Inspiration As Everyday Innovation – Championing Your Personal Development & Professional Success…

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BOLD Just Got Bolder.

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BOLD Just Got Bolder.

JOIN THE #DO1BOLDTHING MOVEMENT…

Action Inspiring. Positively Impacting Our World.

Our Mission:

Positive People Taking Bold Action – Big Bold & Baby Bold Steps – Creating A Bigger BOLDer Business, Career, Community, Life – Sharing Their Stories, Inspiring Each Other To #DO1BOLDTHING – Positively Impacting Our World! 

Courageous Is Contagious!

All Are Welcome.

JOIN US!

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2017: BOLD INNOVATION AT BOLD HQ:

The #Do1BOLDTHING Movement is new, starting strong and growing! Laying the foundation, shaping possibilities based on the BOLD inspiration, innovation, principles, content and body of work of Founder Ann Ulrich and her passion, persistence and perseverance in creating positively BOLD iterations over 20+ years to champion, encourage, empower, and inspire the BEST in people leading at all levels… business, career, community, life… since 1993!

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JUMP IN, JOIN US, BUILD THE MOVEMENT…

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Think about the courageous action you want to take… the positive impact you want to make… in your business, your career, your community, your life, our world.

You’re ready!

  1. GO DO 1 BOLD THING!
  2. POST TO SHARE YOUR STORY!
  3. HASHTAG #Do1BOLDThing on  Instagram
  4. Invite Your Friends To Post & Share Theirs!

OUR BEST BOLD FUTURE IS HERE.

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Go Ahead.

DO ONE BOLD THING!

Courageous Is Contagious!

Together, We’re Positively Impacting Our World.

Even when it’s easier not to.

 

© 2018  Ann T. Ulrich  ANNULRICH.COM   #DO1BOLDTHING

The Secret To Loving Work & Life: Nothingness

photo-123Funny thing, when I’m asked how I stay energized… what keeps me inspired to champion the best in others… what drives me forward after a disappointment, a speed bump or yes, now and then, even a flat-out-face-plant fail…

I stop to think, never quite sure what the one-thing answer would be.

Until now.

Now I know exactly what keeps me inspired, energized and loving my work and life – and it can work for you too – yes, even with trip-ups amidst triumphs along our way. 

It’s not what I expected – and maybe you expected it would be these, too?

For me it’s not only about eating well (ok, eating well 80% of the time ) it’s not only about getting enough sleep (at least more nights than not), or consistent exercise (if I’m dancing thru the commercials, at least that’s something!) it’s not only about fresh air (whether freezing or frying), and not only about doing rewarding work, connecting with close friends, date time with my husband, and fun family time…

It’s really not about any of those.

What keeps me on top of my game – and can keep you on top of yours?

Self-induced breaks to immerse in *purely blissful nothingness*.

Ahhh…. can’t you just feel the exhale in that?

My kind of *nothingness* is sometimes carefully – or creatively – scheduled, other times randomly enjoyed. Sometimes announced, other times quiet. Sometimes blocked out, other times welcomed in.

The beauty of choosing *purely blissful nothingness*?

It doesn’t require budgeting time or money as vacation does – it’s not about needing to hang on until the weekend – and it doesn’t require managing time differently because it’s actually time-freeing!

Passionately or fiercely protected, committed, and coveted moments of *purely blissful nothingness* make my heart sing.

Start by capturing moment-size doses of nothingness.

We can all grab a moment.

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  1. noth·ing·ness
    ˈnəTHiNGnəs/
    noun
    the absence or cessation of life or existence.
    “the fear of the total nothingness of death”
    • worthlessness; insignificance; unimportance.
      “the nothingness of it all overwhelmed him”

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I would love to have coined the word *Nothingness*. It is however, already here and already burdened with quicksandish descriptions (ugh!) as in absence or insignificance – and yes, it’s even been scientifically proven.

Guess I’m late to the party for starting a movement toward immersing in *nothingness*…

Ah, but *purely blissful nothingness* that’s entirely fresh, unoccupied territory, right? (she hopes as she zips over to Google and comes up with pages of already-out-there’s…)

So the idea of *nothingness* is not a new idea. And that’s OK.

There really are no new ideas – what is new and innovative is how we apply what we already know, in our own fresh new delightful or unexpected ways.

So in branding it to BOLD (you knew this was coming!) here I go:

DO ONE BOLD THING™:

IMMERSE IN PRACTICING THE PURE BLISS OF NOTHINGNESS. 

AND I WILL, TOO.

You in?

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©1993-2015  Ann Ulrich, Owning It! at THE BOLD! FACTOR® Catalyst, Consultant | Success Confidence & Empowerment Keynote Speaker For Rising Stars & Motivated Professionals Leading Our Best Bold Future!

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PHOTO:  A favorite vase I love as much in Winter as in Summer.

DO ONE BOLD THING™: The Non-Negotiable First Step To Owning Your CONFIDENCE.

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On a quick dash thru Neiman Marcus in downtown Minneapolis a few years ago, I stopped just long enough to snap this picture.

What caught my eye was not the cashmere sweater collection it promoted.

Instead, it flashed me back to exciting memories of my former career as professional plus-size runway model, garment fit model and agency owner – when I amassed a smile-inducing collection of mannequins and fashion fit forms.

I smiled, snapped this photo, and then it struck me:

What stopped me in my tracks was how this display portrayed SO many aspects of the business of life we each lead as professional women…

The rich, colorful tapestry we each weave in creating what becomes our life story – as we lead and live our work and life – in our own special way. Every stage. Every day.

The layers that complicate us – confine us – comfort us – challenge us – complete us?

Our many shades beyond grey.

In that complexity, I want to help bring clarity to the often-exciting, often-overwhelming realities of achieving Success. And Happiness. As you define each for yourself.

The key to Success? (and Happiness?)

Owning It… With CONFIDENCE.

Where to begin? Start here:

photo-84DO ONE BOLD THING™: THE NON-NEGOTIABLE FIRST STEP TO OWNING YOUR SUCCESS… WITH CONFIDENCE:

1.  SELECT YOURSELF FOR SUCCESS!

That’s it! THE often-overlooked first non-negotiable step: Achieving the Success & Happiness you crave begins with Selecting Yourself!

The tough thing about Success? It’s up to you.

The GREAT thing about Success? It’s Up To YOU!

SUCCESS? IT’S UP TO YOU.

Know What You Want. Laser-focus it. Name it. Courageously commit by making it non-negotiable. Grab a quick break and get in front of a mirror and self-talk-it if you need to.

Realize goals worth reaching – the goals you value – are rarely achieved in one-fell-swoop of BOLD Success. Success happens in a series of baby BOLD steps along the way – some forward, and yes, some back. Sometimes more back then forward.

Success is a choice you make. As is Happiness.

What matters is that YOU believe in YOU.

CONFIDENCE IS Believing In Yourself(!) even in that moment – especially in that moment – when it’s easier not to.

(Or why would anyone else believe in you, if you don’t believe in fabulous you? When YOU believe in you, others believe in you, too!)

Thinking this advice applies only for young professionals, early in our careers? Think again.

At every age and every stage of your work and life, to GET what you want you need to KNOW what you want.

Achieving what you want begins when you commit, when you OWN IT with CONFIDENCE … by Selecting Yourself For Success!

DO ONE BOLD THING:

Select Yourself For Success! 

OWN IT… WITH CONFIDENCE.

Achieve The Success (& Happiness) You Crave.

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© 1993-2014  Ann Ulrich, Owning It! at THE BOLD! FACTOR® Award-Winning Leader, Trusted Advisor & Women’s Empowerment Conference Speaker, Encouraging & Inspiring Women To Lead With CONFIDENCE.  AnnUlrich.com

PHOTO:  I snapped this shot at Neiman Marcus, downtown Minneapolis (before NM left Mpls) as an inspiring reminder of the fit form collection I owned in my former career as professional plus-size model and agency owner – and how it applies in so many ways to the business of life for professional women… whose success & happiness I passionately champion at THE BOLD! FACTOR®.

I APPRECIATE YOU!

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Calibrate Your BOLD: Magnetic Charisma & Quiet Confidence

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“SUCCESS begins with CONFIDENCE. Your Calm, Classy, Courageous, Contagious, Calibrated(!) CONFIDENCE Is Key To Achieving The Success & Happiness You Crave.”

– Ann Ulrich, Owning It! at THE BOLD! FACTOR® and BEST BOLD U! Keynotes. Live Events! Trusted Advisor To Motivated Men & Women.

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Whether you bring your best with the external energy of Magnetic Charisma… or with the inner strength of Quiet Confidence…

Calibrating Your Confidence is critical in achieving the Success you crave.

Calibrating Your Confidence maximizes your personal and professional effectiveness.

Calibrating Your Confidence anchors your resolve when impostor syndrome strikes.

UNcalibrated Confidence gives your BOLDness a bad rap, and deservedly so.

UNcalibrated Confidence can leave you picking up the pieces of your solid reputation potentially unraveling in nanoseconds.

UNcalibrated Confidence risks unintended consequences, sabotaging your Success.

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WHAT DOES *Calibrating Confidence* MEAN IN REAL BUSINESS? REAL LIFE?

When you bring your BOLD with Magnetic Charisma: You have an opportunity to Calibrate the external energy of your Confidence anytime you choose(!) by mindfully observing what’s happening around you… how you’re responding or reacting… and adjusting accordingly. Start here:

Get your antennae up, get dialed in, and get interested in the people and situations surrounding you. With courage, awareness, authenticity and practice, you can maximize your influence and positive impact – earning trust, respect, and top-of-mind positioning – as you build new Success! All that and more, simply by shifting the focus and intensity of your powerful external energy… with the peripheral view, vulnerability, and other-focused compassion of EMPATHY.

When you bring your BOLD with Quiet Confidence: You have an opportunity to Calibrate the inner strength of your Confidence anytime you choose(!) by mindfully observing what’s happening around you… how you’re responding or reacting… and adjusting accordingly. Start here:

Get your antennae up, get dialed in, and get interested in the people and situations surrounding you. With courage, awareness, authenticity and practice, you can maximize your influence and positive impact – earning trust, respect, and top-of-mind positioning – as you build new Success! All that and more, simply by shifting the focus and intensity of your powerful inner strength… with the peripheral view, vulnerability and other-focused involvement in CONNECTING.

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…. Calibrate Your MAGNETIC BOLD with Courage!

And you’ll stop the self-sabotage of opportunities lost due to Annoying, Avoiding or Repelling… when your goal is to Attract.

… Calibrate Your QUIET BOLD with Courage!

And you’ll stop the self-sabotage of opportunities lost due to Imploding, Derailing, or Flatlining Into Invisible… when you want to be Seen & Heard. 

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READY TO GET YOUR BOLD ON?

DO ONE BOLD THING.™

CALIBRATE YOUR BOLD WITH CONFIDENCE.

CALM. CLASSY. COURAGEOUS. CONTAGIOUS. CALIBRATED(!) CONFIDENCE. 

SUCCESS? IT’S UP TO YOU.

OWN IT… WITH CONFIDENCE!

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© 1993-2014  Ann Ulrich, THE BOLD! FACTOR® Catalyst, Strategist, Leader, Keynote Speaker & Mentor: “Navigating Success With Confidence! Self-Empowerment For Emerging Leaders & Motivated Professionals.” Subscribe to receive blog posts at:  AnnUlrich.com

PHOTO:  I created (author!) DO ONE BOLD THING.™ & SHIFT YOUR OLD TO BOLD!™ 2-in-1 Inspired Action! Success Cards, having a blast igniting thought-provoking Confidence- & Success-building conversations with inspired people using these cards, available at my BEST BOLD U!™ Live Events & THE BOLD! FACTOR® Keynotes.