You’re Not Over This, Are You

8 years ago. One day after Labor Day. 2012.

I’ll never forget the gut-wrenching feeling after that surprise phone call. I was fired from my dream job. Or more accurately: one of my many dream jobs.

I stayed all dressed up (as if looking the role would bring it back?) and called my friend, Monica. I needed to see a dear friend. On my deck. With wine. Girl talk. The real kind. Pronto.

When David returned from biz travels a few days later, he took one look at me,

“You’re not over this, are you.”

Um, no. It happened like yesterday, how could I be. Not even close.

He suggested I get a good night’s sleep and then scheduled a kitchen table ‘meeting’ with me for the next morning. (Sometimes you just need to let someone you trust guide you thru and beyond your stuckness.)

That ‘meeting’ shifted my whole perspective and transformed my soul.

I was going to be all right.

Yet there I was: Fired. From a major dream job after having been invited in, following an international search. I would be Co-CEO of a soon-to-be-global startup.

(Don’t ever be Co-Anything. Own your role… and structure the organization so that everyone else can own theirs, too.)

I left my BOLD business and my Fit Modeling Agency to go do this. It was an opportunity custom-created, made-in-heaven, a custom fit, for me. So yes, it was a very big deal.

And yet, there I was. Fired.

Back to David. “Head to Treehouse. Nature will do you good. Take a few months and go write. You always wanted to write. Go. Write.”

So many times in my life I was sure I no longer needed a cabin. Every time, ours has proven me wrong. I packed a few things, said my Goodbye Awesome Husband goodbyes, and headed to Treehouse. The little lake cabin we built together almost 30 years ago.

When I arrived, I was overcome with emotion – gratitude, exhaustion, amazingly no hate.

The decision someone else made for me was no longer holding me prisoner in my own mind.

I headed out the door, straight onto one of my favorite dirt trails… I walked that dry, dusty road and cried pools of tears until all that was left on my face was the same dry dust I was walking thru.

And then I looked up. I looked deep into the woods. And saw THIS.

Sunshine revealed a most exquisite scene… mighty trees protecting bouquets of delicate peach-colored moss.

I had walked past this same spot every Fall for years… and never noticed.

I exhaled one last massive exhale and finally believed I was ready to let it all go. And in that moment, reinforced for myself that no matter how hard anyone wanted to help me thru it…

Rebounding from any setback was, is, and always will be… up to me.

Thanks for stopping by. I’m glad you’re here.

KEEP BECOMING TOTALLY YOU

And I will, too.

ANN TATARELLI ULRICH

WingWoman For Women – Champion. Friend. Coach. Confidante.

© 1993-2020 Ann T. Ulrich ANNULRICH.COM

Loving Your Life vs Struggle Sells

by Ann Tatarelli Ulrich

The first time I saw this poster, it stopped me in my tracks:

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My first thought?

OH MY GOSH, I LOVE THIS!

My next thought?

WHO EVEN SAYS THAT.

To say your Today is the Yesterday you dreamed about … would be basically admitting to loving your life.

Yep. LOVING. YOUR. LIFE. 

Loving your life does not EVER require that everything is perfect.

LOVING YOUR LIFE – EVEN WHEN IT’S EASIER NOT TO – IS WHAT WE NEED TO HEAR MORE OFTEN – FROM ME AND FROM YOU – LOUD AND STRONG.

I get it. 

Struggle Is REAL.

STRUGGLE SELLS.

That’s LIFE. 

Start paying attention to which syllable you’re putting your own emphasis on. 

Don’t let STRUGGLE SELLS become your next excuse… OF COURSE IT SELLS. 

Realize that once you’ve branded yourself in that…

By choosing to MAKE THE STRUGGLE YOUR STORY…

Don’t be surprised if you wake up one day wondering when exactly you stopped loving your life.

As you begin doubting whether anyone actually DOES love theirs. 

BRAVO WE WHO DO…

Even when – especially when – it’s easier not to. 

BRAVO ALL Willing To Shout THAT from rooftops.

Do YOU Remember The Days You Used To Dream About What You Have Right Now?

LOVE In This Month Of Valentines,

ANN ULRICH

Founder, DO 1 BOLD THING™

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*not sure who to credit for this inspirational meme above – love it!

Playing It Safe, Risking Success!

photo-24When is the last time…

you were so passionately committed to an idea – a new possibility – a person’s potential – a new way – a fresh perspective…

that you were willing to climb to the top of the hill…

stand alone, silhouetted against the sky… 

knowing you’re in a position to be shot down?!

Is this the ultimate risk?

Or is the ultimate risk not risking anything!

By Choosing To Play It Safe, You’re Choosing To Risk New Success.

It will always be easier to play it safe

… caring just enough to toss your two cents in as you walk away to follow the crowd of leaders who follow crowds.

It will always be easier to play it safe

… doing just enough to get by, fit in, comfortably unnoticed.

It will always be easier to play it safe… 

… flying under the radar with no headwinds challenging ever-present status quo or risking ever-possible new success.

It will always be easier to play it safe 

… choosing the same old way vs churning new waves of inspired innovation.

WHAT IF in stepping up with a fresh perspective, you elevated one thing, improved one situation, advanced one outcome, positively impacted one person!

WHAT IF in setting out to change your corner of the world, you realized the real gift lies in expanding your own view of the vast potential of you!

WHAT IF in taking those big steps sprinkled with baby steps forward, you tripped yourself up, got back up, and discovered hey, that was ok!

WHAT IF in risking those missteps along the way, you realized fun happens and success thrives at the intersection where people, projects and new possibilities come alive!

WHAT IF in trusting yourself to take a new risk – speaking up, contributing your own point of view to move an idea, project, strategy or initiative forward – you encouraged, inspired, championed and empowered that same courage and confidence in others!

The Moment You Choose To Play It Safe Is The Moment You Risk New Success.

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DO ONE BOLD THING™:  

SELECT YOURSELF FOR SUCCESS!

OWN IT… WITH CONFIDENCE.

Go ahead.

Climb to the top of that hill.

YES, the one you’re most afraid of.

It could be just the place to start!

#Do1BOLDThing: WHAT ONE BOLD ACTION WILL YOU TAKE TOWARD SUCCESS… TODAY!

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©1993-2017  Ann Ulrich. Ready To Get Your BOLD On & Get Your BOLD Back?

PHOTO:  My favorite reminder of a promise to myself while on a speaking tour in Taiwan back in 1990, the year of the horse. I was leading in my Rookie-To-Executive role in healthcare at that time, and decided one day I would create a business to inspire self-leadership, ownership, confidence and success. Three years later I took a risk, and began.

What To Do When Fear Of Failure Risks Your Next Success

photo-73It’s not that you can’t. (You can!)

It’s not that you’re not willing. (You are!)

It’s not that you don’t want to. (You do!)

It’s not that you don’t know what to do or who to ask for help. (You know!)

It’s not that you’re lost. (You’re here!)

It’s not any of that…

So what is it?

What’s stopping you from taking that one next step?

What’s stopping you from moving forward to create your next success?

What’s stopping you from achieving that one dream that still keeps you awake in giddy excitement at even the thought of it? 

That one thing you would do… if only you could… if only you were willing… if only you really wanted to… if only you knew what to do… if only you could find your way there…

OK, just breathe for a minute and trust me on this one.

I feel your angst. I know your pain. I hold my breath at the thought of wanting to get there so bad you feel like you will explode – or implode – if you don’t.

I know the feeling when all you can produce are tears.

I’ve been where you are.

This morning I was there. 

And then I remembered the one thing I forgot to do. 

Trust me enough to hear me out… I’ve got your back on this one.

Instead of fighting forward, it’s time to step back.

To the beginning.

And before you can step back you need to

STOP.

STOP being afraid.

STOP being so certain that you will fail. Or that you’ll fail again.

STOP being so certain that you don’t already have everything you need to get there.

STOP being so certain about everything you are so certain about.

Where from here? Ready? Here it is.

You simply missed the very first step.

Start here:

SELECT YOURSELF FOR SUCCESS.

That’s it. THE KEY TO THE END IS HOW YOU BEGIN.

Name your Success. Claim it. Own it.

Get Going. Keep Going. Even if baby steps are all you can move forward on right now. Know, trust and believe YOU will succeed… and that it won’t be perfect… and that it will be tough and it will be exhilarating and just plain FUN to be on your way there.

Keep Going even when others insist you will fail.

You’re not doing this to please them anyway, are you?

Keep Going even when YOU insist you will fail.

Not everyone is going to buy in to what you’re doing… because what you’re doing is not going to be for everyone. It’s for the people you’re creating it for. And that’s enough.

And if you think for a moment that you don’t already have everything you need to succeed, scroll back and read the first 5 lines again.

So there you go. Watch you soar…

Send a postcard from the stratosphere of your renewed Confidence in you!

You had it in you all along!

You simply forgot to start at the beginning.

The place to start your next Success is right where you are:

Do One BOLD Thing.

SELECT YOURSELF FOR SUCCESS.

OWN YOUR SUCCESS WITH CONFIDENCE.

It’s Up To YOU!

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© 1993-2017  Ann Ulrich Inc.   AnnUlrich.com

PHOTO:  Last Sunday at our cabin, I had no idea my phone camera would capture the stunning essence of the moment: sparkling water and rippling sky in effervescent shades of blue. And in that moment I realized how grateful I am to choose to live my life without dreading blues on Sundays. Ah, the gifts we gift ourselves.