It wasn’t pretty – pretty ugly is more like it. We’ve made it so far and when we reach 2021, there won’t be any sudden pivot to whatever life becomes post-pandemic. It’s here for awhile, and we are going to need to keep adjusting – and reinventing – accordingly.
I am SO ready to kick 2020 to the curb. SO ready to create 2021. You, too?
Which leads me to today’s post.
The newest speaking and wingwoman offering at TOTALLY TATARELLI.
If you’ve been a subscriber for awhile (thank you!) you might see this as I do… reinvention is not a new topic around here… it is the ultimate intersection of EVERYTHING I’ve been about championing in myself and others over all these years. Welcome…
BOLDERSHIP™ : THE MODERN WAY TO REINVENT YOURSELF
THANK YOU to those who already – or may in the new year – recommend, refer and/or hire me as your WingWoman, your Discreet Confidence Builder, your Host and your Inspirational Speaker. I am thrilled to be working with you:
Women at every level of work. Women at every stage of life.
One thing I know for sure:
REINVENTION IS EVERYDAY LIFE… IT’S. ALL. LIFE!
Curious: How have you reinvented yourself in this unprecedented year? If you’d like, please comment below. You’ll inspire in ways you may never know. Thank You!
That’s it for now.
Stay Safe. Stay Sane. Keep Becoming Totally YOU! And I will, too.
Ready when you are.
Ann Tatarelli Ulrich – TOTALLY TATARELLI: WingWoman For Women – Discreet Confidence Builder – Confidence Makeovers – Host & Inspirational Speaker
I’ll never forget the gut-wrenching feeling after that surprise phone call. I was fired from my dream job. Or more accurately: one of my many dream jobs.
I stayed all dressed up (as if looking the role would bring it back?) and called my friend, Monica. I needed to see a dear friend. On my deck. With wine. Girl talk. The real kind. Pronto.
When David returned from biz travels a few days later, he took one look at me,
“You’re not over this, are you.”
Um, no. It happened like yesterday, how could I be. Not even close.
He suggested I get a good night’s sleep and then scheduled a kitchen table ‘meeting’ with me for the next morning. (Sometimes you just need to let someone you trust guide you thru and beyond your stuckness.)
That ‘meeting’ shifted my whole perspective and transformed my soul.
I was going to be all right.
Yet there I was: Fired. From a major dream job after having been invited in, following an international search. I would be Co-CEO of a soon-to-be-global startup.
(Don’t ever be Co-Anything. Own your role… and structure the organization so that everyone else can own theirs, too.)
I left my BOLD business and my Fit Modeling Agency to go do this. It was an opportunity custom-created, made-in-heaven, a custom fit, for me. So yes, it was a very big deal.
And yet, there I was. Fired.
Back to David. “Head to Treehouse. Nature will do you good. Take a few months and go write. You always wanted to write. Go. Write.”
So many times in my life I was sure I no longer needed a cabin. Every time, ours has proven me wrong. I packed a few things, said my Goodbye Awesome Husband goodbyes, and headed to Treehouse. The little lake cabin we built together almost 30 years ago.
When I arrived, I was overcome with emotion – gratitude, exhaustion, amazingly no hate.
The decision someone else made for me was no longer holding me prisoner in my own mind.
I headed out the door, straight onto one of my favorite dirt trails… I walked that dry, dusty road and cried pools of tears until all that was left on my face was the same dry dust I was walking thru.
And then I looked up. I looked deep into the woods. And saw THIS.
Sunshine revealed a most exquisite scene… mighty trees protecting bouquets of delicate peach-colored moss.
I had walked past this same spot every Fall for years… and never noticed.
I exhaled one last massive exhale and finally believed I was ready to let it all go. And in that moment, reinforced for myself that no matter how hard anyone wanted to help me thru it…
Rebounding from any setback was, is, and always will be… up to me.
Thanks for stopping by. I’m glad you’re here.
KEEP BECOMING TOTALLY YOU
And I will, too.
ANN TATARELLI ULRICH
WingWoman For Women – Champion. Friend. Coach. Confidante.
Or hanging on to these last few days, wishing they could last, you know, forevvver?
One person’s Champagne celebration, is another’s Auld Lang Syne, is another’s Angst.
That last one. If your end-of-year Angst is due to a precious loss – or a radical disappointment this past year, I hope you feel this virtual hug…
… maybe just sign off here right now… go head outside into some fresh air… or grab your favorite pillow and blanket and gift yourself an immersion in blissful nothingness… or call a friend… or send an encouraging word to someone you know needs it today.
Love how compassion and kind action for another can boomerang right back for you.
Let me know in the comments below what came your way as a result of sending that encouraging word to someone you know needed it… so I/We can help celebrate the beautiful BOLD in YOU.
You already know what you need today.
To believe you deserve it can be the hard part.
And if your celebration is all sparkly glitter and bubbles? Let us know in the comments below, and we’ll be right here virtual toasting you!
Ah, ringing in a new year… I had a few too many bad-blind-variety dates back in the day (Ha! Ugh!) and learned that my favorite way to welcome a new year is to “Immerse In Blissful Nothingness”. Not sure if my husband David enjoys that choice as much as I do, he’s become a good sport about it over all these years.
Funny how my business has evolved to reflect life. (It’s ALL life, right?)
Immersing in Blissful Nothingnessis a DO 1 BOLD THING™ strategy that helps me take big BOLD action and baby bold steps toward my dreams and goals.
Sometimes what I need most is to first get QUIET… immersing myself in blissful nothingness… before I boldly hit DO.
Even for a moment.
Even when it’s easier not to.
I hope this inspires what you need to do, or not do, too.
(This Downloadable/Printable 8×10 poster: My “Thank You for Subscribing!” Gift for YOU)
Here’s toasting everything GOOD you’ve experienced or created or dreamed up or took action on in YOUR 2018…
My wish for you as you welcome 2019:
(And I will, too!)
It feels great to be blogging again…
I’m excited to build this blog readership back up in 2019.
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– ANN ULRICH, Wife Mom & Nonna | Motivational Keynote Speaker | Inspirational Movement Igniter – Join our community where I’ll be featuring weekly reposts of YOUR BOLD ACTION in 2019 on Instagram: @do1boldthing | Blogger, Writer, Author | From Founder to Co-Founder To Fired To Owner | Former Plus Runway Model & Founder of the 1st Fit Modeling Agency In America! | Chief BOLD Innovator, Owning It at DO 1 BOLD THING™ | @do1boldthing #do1boldthing
UPDATE – MARCH 2018: Aha! My fabulous Live Show may soon become “formerly fabulous”. Just learned Gravy Live has changed their platform, re-launching as a Shopping Gaming Show iPhone app. Umm… you thinking what I’m thinking? Yep, no longer may be a fit. GREAT team at Gravy tho, and it was all SUPER FUN while it lasted! Stay tuned for new posts, what’s NEW at WOMEN WHO DO 1 BOLD THING!
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PHOTO: Title card in my 2-in-1 Inspired Action! Success Card Set: DO ONE BOLD THING.™ and SHIFT YOUR OLD TO BOLD!™ I lead thought-provoking table discussions with these cards, which feature favorites from my trademark strategies shared in BOLD… as round table topics in my interactive Keynotes, and in-depth strategy conversations.
Whether the fear you’re facing is your next presentation, client meeting or difficult conversation… no matter how accomplished an executive or how rookie a rising star you are… whether you’re navigating unchartered territory or familiar ground… start here:
1. Breathe. Exhale. Smile.
Smile?! Yes. Trust that you’ll get through this. It isn’t the first time fear held you in its vice-like grip, right? And it won’t be the last. So why not take a little pressure off! Smile to yourself – as a powerful positive nod to believing in yourself – trusting that soon you will be looking back on this whole thing with a smile at how fear could have incapacitated you – rendering your impact nothing more than a past al dente spaghetti noodle. Picture yourself looking back and realizing sure, it could have been worse, and yet, it wasn’t. Smile.
2.Re-Think *Immobilized* To Stop The Quicksand Feeling Of Fear.
We all have times we’re stopped in our tracks – immobilized – in fear. When no matter how strong we are, how experienced in business and life we are, the time comes when we simply cannot take a single. step. forward. Worse yet, the downward spiral of sinking in quicksand, engulfed in fear. In the moment it can all feel like eternity. It’s not. Being immobilized is real, for sure. It’s also temporary.You will get through this!And right about now you may want to repeat #1 above and focus on believing in yourself again.
3.Friend Your Fear.
Trying to slay that dragon called fear? Friend your fear! Let fear be the fuel that helps you find the strength and energy to soar, back on top of your game again. Fear is a sign of vulnerability; your honest vulnerability helps keep you real. Fear helps guide your decisions, interactions and actions, and helps you consider how you might approach, prepare or execute differently next time. Fear teaches. Fear inspires. Fear reminds you how much you care. There’s a lot to friend in fear!
4.See Fear As Getting Caught In The Rain. OK, A Downpour.
Both fear and downpours can take your breath away. Both can startle you with unexpected timing and intensity! Both can feel relentless, inescapable… yet both are often fleeting. Both can render your moment, your day, your life… wrecked. STOP. Shift your thoughts, actions and outcomes from Old to BOLD! Even when caught in a downpour, drenched to the bone, you didn’t melt, right?!
5.Don’t Buy Into Fearless.
When someone claims to be forever fearless – or advises you to be – don’t buy it. Work with your fear. Accept fear as a natural and necessary reality of your work, your life, your growth. Let fear fuel your next success!
Next time you find yourself facing, creeping into, or fully immersed in, fear…
Photo: Like a warning sign, fear can alert you to be aware. I prefer to think of my own fear as stopping me in my tracks momentarily, alerting me to new possibilities. It took me years of being afraid of the dark to realize it’s much more fun to friend my fear, than fear my fear.
On this gorgeous May morning, I’m thinking about a question I’ve been asked over the years:
“When it comes to being BOLD, what comes first: Courage or Confidence?”
A thought-provoking *chicken or egg*, isn’t it?
After researching, reflecting, and my favorite way to learn: experience and observation, I had concluded: It Depends. (Yes, the ULTIMATE NOT-SATISFYING RESPONSE TO ANYTHING!) Or, Both:
It takes Courage to be Confident.
It takes Confidence to be Courageous.
Which begs two questions: “How do I become Courageous in a situation if I’m not feeling Confident?” (and) “How do I become Confident if I’m not feeling Courageous?!”
Dr. Maya Angelou recently shed light on this in her wise and wonderful way. She says:
COURAGE is the most important of all virtues. Because without COURAGE you cannot practice the others consistently.
So there it is.
And here is my 2-step BOLD interpretation for you:
Let your Courage (your ability to do something that frightens you) support, guide and champion your Confidence.
First: Let Courage be your WILLINGNESS to step in… the engine deep inside you that says not necessarily *I can* do this (that will come)… start with *I WILL* do this, fear and all. When you WILL do, feeling the fear and doing it anyway… that’s bravery, that’s Courage. This is where you start.
Next:Your Courage shows up and suddenly you’re ready for your Confidence to kick in… moving you into ACTION… even tiny-step action… to achieve whatever is right in front of you. Confidence is your *can do*, I DID IT! feeling. You’ll build new Confidence by taking Courageous, inspired action on whatever is stopping you.
When it comes to being BOLD… Confidence is the gift in being Courageous.
I hope you find comfort in this next time you have an unsurmountable situation of any size roadblocking you from achieving that next thing. Big or Small. Work or Life.
Trust COURAGE as your stepping stone to fire-up your CONFIDENCE… as you move forward, creating your next Success…
Photo: I love colored glass. This vase makes us smile year-round. I move it to a spot where it catches the sun and dances little spots of sunlight across our living room. I’m smiling thinking about it. Note to self: Fill life with simple smile-inducing-ness!
PS. THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE. I hope writings here inspire you to take new action, to Do One BOLD Thing to create new success, as you Lead Live and Love your right-fit-for-you BOLD Exclamation Point *!* Life! Because even tho it may be dressed as Business or Work, it’s all Life.
After a few waves of *what the heck was that?!* of the recent past…
…one thing has become crystal clear:
No more waiting (for any of us!) before claiming and creating our next *it*.
If you’re waiting until you’re, you know, just a bit further along… or a little more experienced… just that much more *ready*… before you go for it and make your next move… or if you’re holding off on moving forward until the time is finally just right… ask yourself:
Is FEAR holding you back from leading and living the work and/or life you crave?
Life is too precious to waste one moment by not exhaling out of fear.
Try this instead: Risk falling on your face – or stubbing your toe trying – by moving forward one step at a time directly into whatever you’re most afraid of… so you can stop that slowly-sinking-in-quicksand feeling called fear… and start breathing life into your life again… coming ALIVE again!
I hope this favorite quote inspires you as it inspires me, everyday:
“It’s no longer about asking what our world needs. Ask what makes you come Alive and go do that. Our world needs people who come ALIVE!” –Thurman/Ulrich
Put yourself out there and make something happen.
Claim your dream and make it non-negotiable.
Let us know so we can cheer you on!
What’s your non-negotiable dream you will make happen… even if it takes a lifetime?