Loving Your Life vs Struggle Sells

by Ann Tatarelli Ulrich

The first time I saw this poster, it stopped me in my tracks:

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My first thought?

OH MY GOSH, I LOVE THIS!

My next thought?

WHO EVEN SAYS THAT.

To say your Today is the Yesterday you dreamed about … would be basically admitting to loving your life.

Yep. LOVING. YOUR. LIFE. 

Loving your life does not EVER require that everything is perfect.

LOVING YOUR LIFE – EVEN WHEN IT’S EASIER NOT TO – IS WHAT WE NEED TO HEAR MORE OFTEN – FROM ME AND FROM YOU – LOUD AND STRONG.

I get it. 

Struggle Is REAL.

STRUGGLE SELLS.

That’s LIFE. 

Start paying attention to which syllable you’re putting your own emphasis on. 

Don’t let STRUGGLE SELLS become your next excuse… OF COURSE IT SELLS. 

Realize that once you’ve branded yourself in that…

By choosing to MAKE THE STRUGGLE YOUR STORY…

Don’t be surprised if you wake up one day wondering when exactly you stopped loving your life.

As you begin doubting whether anyone actually DOES love theirs. 

BRAVO WE WHO DO…

Even when – especially when – it’s easier not to. 

BRAVO ALL Willing To Shout THAT from rooftops.

Do YOU Remember The Days You Used To Dream About What You Have Right Now?

LOVE In This Month Of Valentines,

ANN ULRICH

Founder, DO 1 BOLD THING™

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YOUR BOLD 2018 REFLECTION: CHAMPAGNE – AULD LANG SYNE – ANGST

Hello BOLD Friend,

Ready to shove 2018 right out the door?

Or hanging on to these last few days, wishing they could last, you know, forevvver?

One person’s Champagne celebration, is another’s Auld Lang Syne, is another’s Angst.

That last one. If your end-of-year Angst is due to a precious loss – or a radical disappointment this past year, I hope you feel this virtual hug…

… maybe just sign off here right now… go head outside into some fresh air… or grab your favorite pillow and blanket and gift yourself an immersion in blissful nothingness… or call a friend… or send an encouraging word to someone you know needs it today.

Love how compassion and kind action for another can boomerang right back for you.

Let me know in the comments below what came your way as a result of sending that encouraging word to someone you know needed it… so I/We can help celebrate the beautiful BOLD in YOU.

You already know what you need today.

To believe you deserve it can be the hard part.

And if your celebration is all sparkly glitter and bubbles? Let us know in the comments below, and we’ll be right here virtual toasting you!

Ah, ringing in a new year… I had a few too many bad-blind-variety dates back in the day (Ha! Ugh!) and learned that my favorite way to welcome a new year is to “Immerse In Blissful Nothingness”. Not sure if my husband David enjoys that choice as much as I do, he’s become a good sport about it over all these years.

Funny how my business has evolved to reflect life. (It’s ALL life, right?)

Immersing in Blissful Nothingness is a DO 1 BOLD THING™ strategy that helps me take big BOLD action and baby bold steps toward my dreams and goals.

Sometimes what I need most is to first get QUIET… immersing myself in blissful nothingness… before I boldly hit DO.

Even for a moment.

Even when it’s easier not to.

I hope this inspires what you need to do, or not do, too.

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Here’s toasting everything GOOD you’ve experienced or created or dreamed up or took action on in YOUR 2018…

My wish for you as you welcome 2019:

Stay Inspired. 

Stay BOLD. 

Keep Going!

(And I will, too!)

It feels great to be blogging again…

I’m excited to build this blog readership back up in 2019.

THANK YOU for your subscribing, for your comments below, and for hitting any SHARE BUTTON linked below to share this Blog on your Social Media – or with whoever you think might love a positive jolt of BOLD inspiration along their way, too. (Tag me so I can thank you!)

ANN ULRICH, Wife Mom & Nonna | Motivational Keynote Speaker | Inspirational Movement Igniter – Join our community where I’ll be featuring weekly reposts of YOUR BOLD ACTION in 2019 on Instagram: @do1boldthing | Blogger, Writer, Author | From Founder to Co-Founder To Fired To Owner | Former Plus Runway Model & Founder of the 1st Fit Modeling Agency In America! | Chief BOLD Innovator, Owning It at DO 1 BOLD THING™ | @do1boldthing #do1boldthing

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 YOU are one BOLD ROCKSTAR. 

THANK YOU for being here and for sharing this blog with others you think might love it.

Stay INSPIRED. Stay BOLD. KEEP GOING

And I will, too!

– ANN ULRICH, Inspirational Keynote Speaker, Executive Advisor Coaching Motivated Professionals, BOLDisms Writer, Success Cards Author at DO 1 BOLD THING™

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OWN IT … WITH CONFIDENCE.

CONFIDENCE.

Is Believing In Yourself…

Even In That Moment – Especially In That Moment – When It’s Easier Not To.

DO 1 BOLD THING™ Today:

In That Key Conversation, Tough Situation, or Exciting Presentation…

OWN IT.

With Calm Classy Courageous Contagious CONFIDENCE.

Happy International Women’s Day❗️❤️🌹

– Ann Ulrich, Owning It at Women Who #Do1BOLDThing!

Discreet Confidante As Trusted Advisor For Female Executives | Inspirational Motivational Speaker – Leadership & Life | Join The #Do1BOLDThing Movement!

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DO ONE BOLD THING™: The Non-Negotiable First Step To Owning Your CONFIDENCE.

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On a quick dash thru Neiman Marcus in downtown Minneapolis a few years ago, I stopped just long enough to snap this picture.

What caught my eye was not the cashmere sweater collection it promoted.

Instead, it flashed me back to exciting memories of my former career as professional plus-size runway model, garment fit model and agency owner – when I amassed a smile-inducing collection of mannequins and fashion fit forms.

I smiled, snapped this photo, and then it struck me:

What stopped me in my tracks was how this display portrayed SO many aspects of the business of life we each lead as professional women…

The rich, colorful tapestry we each weave in creating what becomes our life story – as we lead and live our work and life – in our own special way. Every stage. Every day.

The layers that complicate us – confine us – comfort us – challenge us – complete us?

Our many shades beyond grey.

In that complexity, I want to help bring clarity to the often-exciting, often-overwhelming realities of achieving Success. And Happiness. As you define each for yourself.

The key to Success? (and Happiness?)

Owning It… With CONFIDENCE.

Where to begin? Start here:

photo-84DO ONE BOLD THING™: THE NON-NEGOTIABLE FIRST STEP TO OWNING YOUR SUCCESS… WITH CONFIDENCE:

1.  SELECT YOURSELF FOR SUCCESS!

That’s it! THE often-overlooked first non-negotiable step: Achieving the Success & Happiness you crave begins with Selecting Yourself!

The tough thing about Success? It’s up to you.

The GREAT thing about Success? It’s Up To YOU!

SUCCESS? IT’S UP TO YOU.

Know What You Want. Laser-focus it. Name it. Courageously commit by making it non-negotiable. Grab a quick break and get in front of a mirror and self-talk-it if you need to.

Realize goals worth reaching – the goals you value – are rarely achieved in one-fell-swoop of BOLD Success. Success happens in a series of baby BOLD steps along the way – some forward, and yes, some back. Sometimes more back then forward.

Success is a choice you make. As is Happiness.

What matters is that YOU believe in YOU.

CONFIDENCE IS Believing In Yourself(!) even in that moment – especially in that moment – when it’s easier not to.

(Or why would anyone else believe in you, if you don’t believe in fabulous you? When YOU believe in you, others believe in you, too!)

Thinking this advice applies only for young professionals, early in our careers? Think again.

At every age and every stage of your work and life, to GET what you want you need to KNOW what you want.

Achieving what you want begins when you commit, when you OWN IT with CONFIDENCE … by Selecting Yourself For Success!

DO ONE BOLD THING:

Select Yourself For Success! 

OWN IT… WITH CONFIDENCE.

Achieve The Success (& Happiness) You Crave.

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© 1993-2014  Ann Ulrich, Owning It! at THE BOLD! FACTOR® Award-Winning Leader, Trusted Advisor & Women’s Empowerment Conference Speaker, Encouraging & Inspiring Women To Lead With CONFIDENCE.  AnnUlrich.com

PHOTO:  I snapped this shot at Neiman Marcus, downtown Minneapolis (before NM left Mpls) as an inspiring reminder of the fit form collection I owned in my former career as professional plus-size model and agency owner – and how it applies in so many ways to the business of life for professional women… whose success & happiness I passionately champion at THE BOLD! FACTOR®.

Owning Your Success Amidst The Ultimate Success Stifling, Confidence Crushing, Fear Fueling, Influence Immobilizing Impact Of Impostor Syndrome

photo-46Years ago, when I first learned of Impostor Syndrome, I knew I too had (gulp!) experienced the lockjaw impact of its unrelenting grip.

Sound familiar?

Yes, Impostor Syndrome is real.

And yes, you are imminently capable of the Success you imagine for yourself …and yes, you deserve to own the SUCCESS YOU HAVE ALREADY ACCOMPLISHED!

Herein lies your challenge and your opportunity:

Owning It. With Confidence.

Owning Your Success… With Confidence! 

I am writing this post to introduce you to what has become one of my favorites among many great business-and-life-influencing books I’ve read: *THE SECRET THOUGHTS OF SUCCESSFUL WOMEN: Why Capable People Suffer From The Impostor Syndrome And How To Thrive In Spite Of It.* by Valerie Young, Ed.D.

First things first: Impostor Syndrome is NOT a Women-only derailer. 

It’s an equal opportunity success crusher for Men and Women – a potentially devastating confidence destroyer – knowing no bounds related to stage of work or life. 

In fact, I’m realizing now the concepts and realities of Impostor Syndrome may in fact be a subliminal driver behind everything I’ve created in my own business since 1993, including THE BOLD! FACTOR® CONFIDENCE and in work I’ll continue to create in this now-and-next stage of my business – inspiring, encouraging, championing and guiding inspired people like you to Own Your Success… With Confidence! The heart and soul of The BOLD! Factor all along.

BOLD Truth: You can create phenomenal success when you own your success.

These qualifiers (expressions you may be unknowingly crediting your hard-earned success to!) drive my passion for helping people claim their confidence and own their success… 

Valerie Young points out in her book the fascinating way Impostor Syndrome reveals: “in denying the existence of evidence of success in your own life… the problem is your compulsion to explain your success away with qualifiers:

photo-34*It was only because they like me… I was in the right place at the right time… It was luck… I don’t deserve this… Someone made a terrible mistake… I had a lot of connections… If I can do this, anyone can… It is only a matter of time before I am found out… I am a fraud… A fake… Phew, I fooled them again!*”

In her book, Young (who refers to herself as a recovering impostor and invites you to Join The Club!) notes the co-discoverers of Impostor Syndrome, Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, identified four coping and protecting mechanisms: diligence and hard work, holding back, charm, and procrastination. In her work, Valerie has observed three more: maintaining a low or ever-changing profile, never finishing, and self-sabotage.

OUCH.

Any of those ring true for you? A few sure do for me. My work is and will continue to be better for this discovery. I hope the same for you, too.

Last night I picked up the phone and called author, now friend, Valerie Young.

It was a wonderful call, as she referred to it: “meeting a kindred spirit!” Valerie had some good advice for me on how to tackle writing my book, and what worked for her. We agreed it’s the hardest work either of us have done. We talked about where we’re at and our visions of what’s next.

A few more expressions – this time from accomplished people tossing their success to the wind – with powerful feelings of impostor-induced self-doubt. Sound familiar?

Who would think Meryl Streep would ever get cold feet at the beginning of every project, telling a reporter: “Why would anyone want to see me again in a movie? I don’t know how to act anyway, so why am I doing this?”

Or Mike Myers expecting the no-talent police: “At any time I still expect that the no-talent police will come and arrest me.”

Yes, even our beloved Maya Angelou: “I have written eleven books, but each time I think, ‘Uh-Oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.'”

If you know someone who might benefit from knowing about Valerie Young’s book, I hope you will share this post with them. It’s the reason I paused my own book writing this morning, to spread the word – with, for, and through you – on how you can create massive Success & Happiness when you learn to release the grip of Impostor Syndrome… by owning your success with confidence.

Your Success is NOT about Luck. YOU earned it!

Thanks for stopping by and for sharing any Aha’s with us in the comments below… or not… as you wish. This is one uber-personal subject, that’s for sure. Till we meet again:

IMG_1621Do One BOLD Thing.

Own Your Success… With Confidence.

IT’S UP TO YOU!

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© 1993-2017 Ann Ulrich   AnnUlrich.com

Photos:  MASK: David and I found this glass mask during the fun week of our daughter Natalie’s and Dan’s wedding in Playa Del Carmen. And once we pick up a fabulous leather mask like one we found in Italy, we’ll have started a new collection. Masks – as art – can be fascinating!  RAZZLE DAZZLE FORTUNE COOKIE: A favorite blingy gift I’m inspired by everyday, sharing it with you here as a reminder that your Success is not about Luck. Own Your Success With Confidence.™ YOU earned it!